Monday, November 12, 2007


My sweet brother—the one I always refer to in my writing as “my brother the priest”—who I took to the last reunion his high school class of 1943 will ever have, only weeks ago, passed away on Sunday, while I was in Maryland for a reading at the Writer’s Center in Bethesda, at which so many old friends were present, among them the poets Doug Lang, Tina Darragh, and Lynne Dreyer, as well as Terence Winch, at whose home not only me, but my sons—one with his wife and son, the other my little one—all stayed with Terence and his wife and son, my heart was full, so much so that it only took an overwhelmingly humbling introduction by another poet, E. Ethelbert Miller, to bring the tears to my eyes, me, not often humbled by praise, if ever, and then tears actually fell when I read a poem about my father and Jackie Robinson, and another about my first love Bambi, both gone, while my littlest one and my grandson sat on the floor before the podium, at the feet of two nieces and their spouses, who were keeping the news from me until I was done reading and signing books and the audience had dispersed.

And then they told me to call my sister, the only one I have left, and she told me. A surprise and not a surprise. He had not been well, but not so much that I thought this would happen so soon. But he went on his time, ready to go, in his bed in the retirement home for old Franciscans, after asking the nurse to turn off the TV around dawn, a TV that wasn’t on, my nieces saying that was the angels in the room, come to take him where he longed to be, my sister saying it was our long gone parents and our siblings that have passed.

There were seven of us born to our parents, six growing up and making it to adulthood. Three left now, missing the oldest one tonight. But as my friend Terence said, quoting an old Irishman in a story he told me I half heard, but got the gist of: “Well, he’s got that tough job behind him now.”



Blogger -K- said...

First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. You've been speaking of him for years with such respect and admiration and I'm sure he felt every ounce of it.

But I also have to say that in your three short eloquent paragraphs I feel as if I've just read a novel.

November 13, 2007 at 12:11:00 AM EST  
Blogger harryn said...

Michael - what 'K' said + my heartfelt condolences ...

November 13, 2007 at 6:53:00 AM EST  
Blogger james.d.mckenna said...

Sorry Mike. I know the hurt. Big brother Tom just died Sept. 20th. You may remember him. He was 6ys ahead of us at OLS. I don't remember your brother from South Orange, but he must have be great guy if he was a Franciscan.
My best to you and your family.

November 13, 2007 at 10:32:00 AM EST  
Blogger Lally said...

I want to thank everybody for their condolences, and offer mine to you Jim for the loss of your brother. In my experience, what's most valubale in life is family and friends, and my brother Campion (whose birth name was Thomas) had more than most of both.

November 13, 2007 at 1:49:00 PM EST  
Blogger Thomas said...


Of course my condolences. Can't say any more -- its too private and inaccessible to anyone other than you.

Absolutely love the Winch's final take on the whole thing. Of course it presupposes an afterlife that will be an "easier job." Some of us are still struggling with whether the afterlife really exists in any form. The cynical side of myself, fueled by a lot of Jewish friends (not to mention my lovely wife), says: live it to the max right now because once you are six feet under the story ends.



November 13, 2007 at 7:10:00 PM EST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Michael- Sorry to hear about your brother. It sounded like he went peacefully. I'll call soon. Blaine

November 13, 2007 at 9:09:00 PM EST  
Anonymous John said...

My condolences to you and your family. My thoughts will be with you today

November 14, 2007 at 11:10:00 AM EST  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Michael...great to see you in DC,and see Miles,talked for a long while with him... and your other son....sorry for the loss of your brother....went to a funeral yesterday and the rabbi said, "remember him well. memory does two things, it will pull you up , and let him live in immortality" I liked that..short and sweet..take care...Lynne Dreyer.

November 17, 2007 at 7:50:00 AM EST  

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